对于单身或婚姻生活都不那么坚持的我总认为两个人能在一起要很强的缘分与祝福，但是一切都不能强求。我不抗拒单身，但也不会仅仅为了结婚而结婚。而她，CHARLENE则从个人经验与阅读中有另一种领悟；她与我分享了多篇文章与祈祷文，并且鼓励我从现在开始认真的就此事向天主祈求。不管单身或结婚，唯有受到天主祝福的抉择才能持久。
当我读着向主祈求一位好配偶的经文时，我感到很心虚。为什么？看看经文所求的配偶条件：正直、忠诚、纯洁、诚恳，并要彰显出主圣心的特质；表面上看来不难，但是谁敢信心满满的说自己百分百的正直、忠诚、纯洁、诚恳？至少我不敢，我有我的缺点对此我倒是很有自知之明。我是女生，所以我要求有着这些条件的男人；那么若换成是一个男人在祈求，那么他所求的配偶岂不也是要有这么多这么好的条件？身为教友、身为女人，我通过祷文看见自己的不足。像我这么一个不足的人，能要求那么好的伴侣吗？‘可以的’，CHARLENE说。就因为我们自知不完全合格，所以更要努力的在主内成长；我们不可能完美，但是我们仍要以此为目标不断鞭策自己积极的向前。
Prayer for a Good Husband/Wife
O Jesus, lover of the young, the dearest friend I have, in all confidence I open my heart to You to beg Your light and assistance in the important task of planning my future. Give me the light of Your grace, that I may decide wisely concerning the person who is to be my partner through life. Dearest Jesus, send me such a one whom in Your divine wisdom You judge best suited to be united with me in marriage. May his/her character reflect some of the traits of Your own Sacred Heart. May he/she be upright, loyal, pure, sincere and noble,（真的不容易做到每一点。。。） so that with united efforts and with pure and unselfish love we both may strive to perfect ourselves in soul and body, as well as the children it may please you to entrust to our care. Bless our friendship before marriage, that sin may have no part in it. May our mutual love bind us so closely, that our future home may ever be like Your own at Nazareth.（的确应该以圣家为典范，他们经历了那么多风雨却不曾动摇，从不口出怨言。。。）
O Mary Immaculate, sweet Mother of the young, to Your special care I entrust the decision I am to make as to my future husband/wife. You are my guiding star! Direct me to the person with whom I can best cooperate in doing God’s Holy Will, with whom I can live in peace, love and harmony in this life, and attain to eternal joys in the next.
Amen.
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接下来的是在确认伴侣在自己心中、生活中的定位的祷文。按照天主教网页的说法，在发展一段浪漫的感情之前，男女间应该经历一段‘确认期’--确认天主为自己与对方所做的安排是否如个人的私愿一般。确认期期间，男女双方已经知道彼此间的吸引力，也说出来让对方知道了，但这单单限于两人间的确认是不够的，要为着这段感情的真伪祈祷，并彼此代祷。经历确认期后，两人才开始进入一段健康的男女朋友关系。这种关系必须建立在互相扶持、彼此爱护与鼓励的前提之下，接下来才朝向真正的浪漫感情方向进展。网站中有一篇文章提到男人应该有‘坚持’与‘持续不断’的精神，因为女生通常会考虑很多，有些甚至在男人示爱后拒绝对方；身为神职人员兼辅导员的作者鼓励男人要有耐心并坚持热忱，让女生从他们的身上看见并产生信心。他也提醒女生学会确认与表达信息；在男人示爱后要搞清楚对方的行动是否为一时兴起之作，或是已经过深思熟虑才行动。分辨出男人对自己的认真度后，女生应该清楚的把自己的意思传达给对方知道。如果喜欢对方，那么要让他知道，同时要求对方给自己时间确认自己的心意；如果不喜欢对方，也应该以良好的态度让对方知道，并且以礼相待。
Lord, I thank you for the blessing of （填上对方的名字） in my life. I ask that You will keep him/her safe and hold him/her in Your arms in time of need and in times of rejoicing.
Lord, at this time I ask you to purify my attraction towards __________; Lord Jesus, if it is Your will that we be together as a couple either within the next year or even in the next five years from now, please place a peace in our hearts about this situation. But, Lord, if it is not Your will, please give us peace in not sharing a life together and the grace to continue a God-fearing friendship.
I thank You Lord for this time of growth in ___________'s journey closer towards you and ask that You will continue to purify him/her for the adventure ahead. Lord, I ask that you will give him/her consistency in his/her feelings towards me and that his/her Love for me will only grow in the way in which You intend it to grow.
Lord, only You know my heart's desires and I ask that everything I do that involves _________ will only lead him/her closer to You Jesus. Lord, You know I only want the best for him/her and that I can't give him/her anything, only You can. Amen
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最后是一封以上主名义写给单身者的情书。
Remember to always pray to your guardian angel and your patron saint, and ask them to intercede for you before the throne of God, asking your First Love （第一次读的时候以为First Love是指初恋情人，后来才明白First Love指的是主耶稣；看哪：肤浅的我啊～）to send you, in His perfect timing, the one who will make all your dreams come true.
“Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37:4
情书全文如下～
“Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone – to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively. But God, to a Christian, says, “No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and content with being loved by Me alone – with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me – with having an intensely personal and unique relationship with Me alone will you be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be united with another until you are united with Me – exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any other desires or longings. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing – one that you cannot imagine. I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to bring it to you. You just keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things – keep experiencing the satisfaction that I am. Keep listening and learning the things I tell you. You just wait. That’s all.
Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Don’t look around at the things others have or that I’ve given them. Don’t look at the things you think you want. You just keep looking off and away up to Me, or you’ll miss what I want to show you. （常常，我们把焦点放在“我要‘这’，我祈祷，主啊请给我‘这’；当主把‘那’给我们时，我们无法看见‘那’的美丽，因为我们的心还在固执地想着‘这’。”）
And then, when you’re ready, I’ll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you would dream of. You see, until you are ready, and until the one I have for you is ready (I am working even at this moment to have both of you ready at the same time), until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me, and this is the perfect love.
And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love, I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer you with Myself.
Know that I love you utterly.
I am God.
Believe it and be satisfied.”
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